Rejection- Good or bad?

Whenever I get rejected for a job that I think is perfect for me or by someone with whom I would imagine spending the rest of my life, I blame myself. I punish myself in so many ways. I don’t buy the clothes I had kept on my wish list because of that rejection; I don’t treat myself to ice cream or any good food. I conclude that I should be sad for now and for the rest of my life. I believe that I don’t deserve anything good just because I got rejected. This is how I feel after a rejection, and I am writing this just after getting rejected from a job that I thought was meant for me.

But then, time passes by, and I forgot about the job I got rejected for or the person who rejected me. And then I remember that ice cream, waiting for me in my freezer for a week; that ice cream that I bought after working so hard in all the other aspects of my life. I remember the clothes that I saved in my wish list that I wanted to buy as a treat to myself for working extra shifts the previous month, for maintaining my physical, mental and emotional health at all times, micro-managing my day, for sustaining good relations with family and friends (or at least trying to :P) and for making sure that no one gets hurt because of my (intentional) actions.

Sometimes, it takes the bad or the challenging experiences in our lives for us to remember and appreciate the good things we have in our lives. And maybe sometimes, rejections are good because they remind you of the natural world and release you from the fantasy you create in your head about your life or the future you predict for yourself. So, simply stating, rejections may be good or bad; it is totally up to you and how you handle it and make it an experience you either learn something from or end up ignoring the ice cream that still awaits in your freezer.